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‘Darling just fing own it! When we change so does the world around us’

This weeks blog will totally change your existence on this planet and transform your life…

If you choose to fing own it and see it that is! (Not all of you will)

Have you ever had a stressful situation in your life? Perhaps you have fallen out with a friend or colleague or family member. No one likes it when this happens and it causes everyone in and around the situation pain and hurt let alone the people involved. Have you got a situation like this at the moment in your life?

It is easy to spend our life blaming people for things and being the victim, it’s a safe comfortable place to be. But let me ask you this do you believe that life is happening to you or for you? When we realise that we create our own reality everything shifts. When we own our part in situations the energy dissolves and life becomes an easier place.

For most of my adult life I have blamed my father for not being the father I wanted, thoughts like he is not very emotional and was never interested in me and my sister dominated my life. In my mid twenties I justified his behaviour by recognising that he never had much of a father figure in his life and that is why he was the way he was. I thought I had put it to bed.

‘When we change so does the world around us’

Recently what I have only just seen is the role I had to play in my story and how I contributed to the situation. In reality I had taken my love away from him and talked about him and too him in a certain way, believing he was the way he was and that he would never change and that I was in the right. When I became conscious of my part in the situation and owned it and accepted it, apologising to him our relationship changed. I am happy to report the break through with my father has been amazing and I realise I always was daddies little girl that I wanted to be I just didn’t see it.

Where are you making someone wrong and not owning your part in things?

As humans we don’t like to see this stuff as it threatens our identity and self worth but when we are really and truly honest with ourselves and we take responsibility for our part, life begins to get easier.

Do you blame others? When we do we make our life a misery, a roller coaster of hateful emotion. When we take responsibility and own our own shite it irons this out and problems fall away.

Does your life flow or are you in turmoil?

Think about a situation that is causing you upset or is worrying you.

Now the next bit is hard and believe me your ego won’t want you to do this. I want you to be truly honest with yourself, how have you contributed to the situation! Yes you – what part did you play?

One of the simplest things you can do is apologise to the other person for your part in it and watch how the energy shifts. So do you own it and see it? Or are you reading this daze and confused. Don’t defend it and justify it, own it. When you own it you can change it. What behaviours and beliefs often stand between you and happiness?

Your turn…Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

Abundant living No regrets

‘Top tips on how to Keep Calm Serve and get out of your own way’


For a long time now I have wanted to do my own thing. By that I mean write inspirational blogs, speak and inspire people, yet every time I get an opportunity to step up, the voice in my head gets louder ‘who would want to listen’, ‘what have you got to say that people would want to hear.’

Having come from a dark place to one where there is now light, I figure if I can help one person with my journey then I will have achieved something. I am learning that rather than focusing on ourselves and our feelings of inadequacy we need to focus on the bigger picture and who we can help and how we can serve.

Yes – Get out of your own way!

When we focus on the impact we will have and the people we well help the fear melts away.

Say you have been wanting to start that teacher training course or begin that book but can’t quite get around to starting. You know you are procrastinating and avoiding it but can’t seem to help it. Well we need to realise that we are all at different stages of our personal journey. We can help one another and human kind by lifting each other up the development chain. If we focus on helping those around us, we all become stronger.

So what if you are not the most experienced teacher in the world – you will still be able to help a young child learn to read and write, so what if you have never officially written a book before but long to help others – get out of your own way and start.

Things become easier when we start!

We are always being supported from above, our spidey sense is always there guiding us, we just have to listen and be open to the guidance. We also have to realise that this guidance comes in all shapes, sizes and ways. I always used to think that people who were psychic had super human powers and that they had a loud voice in their heads giving them directions like someone speaking over a microphone. Now I realise that all psychic ability is heightened intuition and that we all have psychic abilities.

Think back to a time you have walked in a room and instantly knew there was a problem? Or the classic you know who is on the other end of the phone when it rings, these are both forms of heightened intuition.

Our spidey sense as I like to call it guides us all our lives, we just have to recognise it and by tuning into it, it will get stronger.

When we shift our focus away from what can we get to how can we serve the world changes.

People born at this time are here for a reason and we are at a critical point in humanity, we have a window of a few years to shift the consciousness on this planet and the more we recognise that and ask how we can serve the more the answers will come.

The answers come in all shapes and sizes and in completely different ways. Sometimes you might be drawn to a particular article or notice something which helps you, other times this guidance may come in the form of another person. By talking to them the answer maybe become clear. More recently I find I am strongly drawn to people at networking events who turn out to be great contacts or I get an amazing synchronicity happening in my life which is my spirit giving me signs. A rather freaky habit that has developed as I have become more aware is when I am talking about something which is positive or of benefit, maybe an idea I am playing with, I get a rush of energy through my body. So much so that my hairs stand on end!

We are guided constantly. When we ask the question how can I serve? How can I make the biggest impact on this planet? Miraculous things happen.

I am currently working with some friends on a project which will inspire a billion people and all the way through the process the guidance has been particularly strong, there is a real energy around this project. When we ask ,the guidance comes, yet we rarely ask.

So Keep Calm, Serve and Get out Your own way!

We are all here for a greater mission it is whether we choose to listen to our calling. So the next time you find yourself worried about thing’s in your life, keep calm, breathe deeply in and out for a few seconds and connect to your spirit it will show you the way to help and serve.

Write a list of the things you are looking to give to the universe. How are you looking to help others – this is not about what you want but about how you can give. Then daily ask the question how can I serve and watch the guidance come.

Abundant Living – No Regrets

How do you receive guidance from them upstairs?